overcoming anxiety

Overcoming Anxiety

Anxiety. Three days of hard work and I overcame the unhealthy hold it had on my life. It sounds like a television testimonial that will ask you to buy their product, doesn’t it? From one perspective, it took only a few days of focused attention and emotional tumult to knock down anxiety and improve my…

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Opening Up

I have been going through two stressful life events in the last two months. There was a lot anger that these events were occurring; anger because I did not have much influence over the outcome of either situation. I could play a role, be active in making the situations slightly better, but nothing could be…

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Time with Others

I was in a relationship awhile back where we got into the same argument every three to four months. The problem was how much time I spent with others outside the relationship and how well or how poorly I treated my partner once we saw each other again. I did not see a problem; she…

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Getting Along

Sometimes I like to think, “Can’t we all just get along?” Other times, especially with everything in the news these days, I wonder at the naiveté of such thinking. We all have our personal interests, desires and goals – “what we want” out of the moment, the day, and our lives. How can we expect…

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Work is busy

Work is busy, too busy. Being too stressed and overwhelmed is not good in any job. Self-care is always important, but even more so when we notice the effects of too much work. I let my manager know when I am too busy. She may already know this and may be working to alleviate the…

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Attribution

There is this problem: When I cut someone off on the road while driving, I see it as a mistake – something I would not normally do, something that happened due to the circumstances. Yet when someone else cuts me off in traffic, he is a jerk. I question his judgment, his moral character, and…

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Rebuilding Trust Over Time

Much of our lives we spend dealing with the day-to-day stressors in our lives. From time to time, however, we look at the bigger questions – the meaning and value of our lives. How do I treat others? How do I improve myself, make my life better? How do I reach my goals while maintaining…

Aligning Our Goals

Here are a few simple steps you can take to make your life more difficult! Think of a task or goal that you are having a problem completing. Ask yourself why you have not been able to complete it. Add a value judgment to your reason — I’m a procrastinator, I don’t have the skills to…

Going After Dreams

What are your dreams? How strongly do you go after them? How much do other things get in the way? I wanted to write the Great American Novel when I was younger. It is a dream many people have. I spent quite a bit of time on it. I went on writing vacations. I took…

Seeking Ways to De-Stress

How do you take care of yourself? What do you do to relax, de-stress, take the edge off? This is a question I ask most people when they call in for a counseling referral. One activity I recently rediscovered is reading the morning paper. It slows down my morning routine of rushing around getting ready…