Reasons for HR to Contact the EAP

The Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is available to help with any concern that affects performance or productivity. Here are 10 other times that the EAP may be of help: Preparing for a layoff. The EAP is available for consultation on how to prepare for reactions, provide written material for packets and review strategies for managing…

A Good Confidant – Part 2

How can you be a good confidant? A good rule of thumb is that you should listen twice as much as you speak. Perhaps it helps if you know that what people report they want most from a confidant is just someone to listen. They don’t necessarily want someone to solve their problems, but to…

A Good Confidant, Part 1

When I talk to clients in my role as a LifeMatters counselor, one thing I always want to explore is how good their system of support is. It can tell you a lot about how someone relates to others and about how they handle difficulty. Some people have lots of family and friends to rely…

Is Sitting the New Smoking?

I am a bit of a Mad Men fiend. I love taking a glimpse into life in the 60s. Being a child of the 80s, I was taken aback by the amount of smoking in the workplace that was taking place at Sterling Cooper (not to mention the drunkenness and sexual harassment, but that’s a…

What Do You Expect?

We all have hopes and expectations in our lives – for ourselves and for others. Others have their expectations and dreams for us. It is worthwhile to pay attention to these expectations. Most of the time, what others expect of us will be innocuous, things we are already in agreement with, even if we are…

When the Bully is Your Boss

Most of us have been affected by bullying in one way or another, either as a victim, a bystander or perhaps even the perpetrator. Though many think bullying occurs primarily during childhood and adolescence, there can also be a fair amount of it in the workplace as an adult. In a recent survey of more…

Traveling an Alternate Path

When I finished graduate school 24 years ago, I had a clear idea of what I wanted to do with my career and very specific goals – but I haven’t actually done anything that I’d initially planned. If I’d wanted to, I could have gone right into the kind of job I was envisioning when…

The Comparison Trap

What can make a regular Midwestern January school day even more unappealing to an average grade school student? The knowledge that all around the area, many school districts have closed due to wind chills hovering precariously close to 30 below zero, while ours remained open. Parents were asked to decide whether or not it was…

Our Changing World

As we begin the New Year, I find it fascinating to think about how are lives have changed over the past several decades with the introduction of cell phones, social networking, and Internet availability, among other things. It seems as if these tools have been a part of our lives forever, although while this may…

Giving Panic a “Time-Out”

I had a panic attack the other day. It was a small one. I don’t get them often, the last big one was over four years ago. Still, they are not fun to have. Body tenses up… assuming a self-protective, though not quite fetal position… breathing gets shallower… head feels ready to explode. It was…