“Coping 101”

In the many years I have worked as a counselor, I often talk with people about the challenges they struggle with and what goals they have to work through such challenges. When asked about these goals, I find that many people’s first inclination is to just say, “I wish I did not have to face…

iRest

Twelve years ago, we made the decision to remove our television from the comfort of our living room to the much less desirable, unfinished basement. The decision had the impact we hoped it would, in that it cut our screen time to almost nothing, except for the occasional family movie. Instead, we encouraged outdoor activities…

Apology Accepted

My husband enjoys sharing some unsolicited, mostly lighthearted guidance with recently married men. He advises them to greet their partners with the words “I am sorry” when they see each other at the end of the day. In response to the quizzical looks he typically receives, my husband goes on to explain: “You probably did…

Pretend Friends Have Real Impact

Imagine a very young boy with a sweet voice, using a lot of arm gestures, dramatic pauses, squinting, and enthusiasm declares: “Allison is afraid of the dark. So, I took the moon…with a rope…and I…put out the sun!” This was the first thing my son, Leo, announced to me one morning around his third birthday,…

Self-Care Is Not Selfish

Most of the time, when I finish interacting with someone, I part ways with a simple phrase: “take care”. These two words carry quite a bit of meaning. When we advise someone to “take care”, we encourage them to focus on their own well-being, despite the unknown difficulties they may face as the day progresses.…