Me, Version 5.0

Kate, my colleague down the hall, got me thinking about age with her recent blog post, 30 is Not the New 20. Hitting 50 this year was not supposed to be a big deal. Birthdays have not been a big deal since my 29th, when I realized, oh boy, I am going to be 30…

Trouble is Meant to Be Shared

“Trouble is a part of your life – if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you chance to love you enough.” – Dinah Shore, entertainer It’s a shame that many clients who call LifeMatters® in times of crisis and difficulty are unable to consult with friends or family about their…

30 is Not the New 20

Thirty is not the new 20.” Crap! That would have been helpful to hear ten years ago. Those were my exact thoughts after viewing Dr. Meg Jay’s 2013 Ted Talk, “Why 30 is not the new 20.” “Don’t worry, you’re still young,” seems to be the most common advice I hear when I seek support…

Good Samaritans

I recently benefited from the acts of a Good Samaritan. On vacation in the UK, I was stranded with two flat tires, cell phone without a charge and not knowing where to turn or what to do. A stranger came out of the blue – or rather, out of the nearby apartment building – and…

Should You Walk Away? – Part 2

Let’s start with a little review from Part 1. The sunk cost fallacy is the proverbial thing of throwing good money after bad. It’s when people push forward on a bad choice believing that investing more time, money, effort, and other resources will save a project or a relationship that appears to be failing. Anyone…

Should You Walk Away? – Part 1

My knowledge of economics is pretty sketchy, but sometimes it gives me good ideas that I can adapt for myself. For instance, I recently learned of an economic principle called the “sunk cost fallacy”. The sunk cost fallacy is the tendency to continue doing something for fear that by stopping, you’ll lose what you’ve already…

Consigning My Life Away

In the spirit of saving money, I tried something new – consignment sales. I have read countless personal finance articles that encourage consigning as a great way to bring in some income. I have always been a bit skeptical about this, wondering if anyone would really want to spend money on items I no longer…

Letting Go

Picking a college. It is amazing how many decisions, emotions and life transitions are contained in that short phrase. Recently I’ve been telling anyone who will listen that our 17-year-old daughter just started preschool yesterday! We have pictures of her in cheerleading outfits from our alma mater, taken when she actually was in preschool, thinking…

More Time…

As I made the hour drive to my parents’ house, all I could think is, I’m not ready, I need more time. My dad had battled cancer for almost a year and a half. Earlier that morning, I received a call at work from my mom. It was the call I had been waiting for,…

Do I Have to Be Realistic?

Realistic: Having or showing a sensible and practical idea of what can be achieved or expected. Few of us would willingly pursue a folly, some pie-in-the-sky fantasy that is completely disconnected from the realm of possibility, taking a lot of our time to chase after the truly unobtainable. There would, of course, be no point.…