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Spreading Hope

It feels like 2016 was filled with more than its fair share of heartbreak, as data released by Google Trends illustrates. The search engine’s top trending global news topics in 2016 were: U.S. election Olympics Brexit Orlando shooting Zika virus Panama papers Nice terrorist attack Brussels terrorist attack Dallas shooting Kumamoto earthquake An acquaintance recently shared that she…

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Listen Both Ways

Next time you find yourself at an impasse trying to communicate with someone or you get into another one of those dead-end disagreements with someone with whom you often argue without resolving anything, consider what follows here. Every conversation happens on two levels. First, there is the content level. On this level, you talk about…

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Fact vs. Opinion

In our household, we used to play a game with our school-aged children called “fact vs. opinion”. It started during meal times, when one child would often pronounce another child’s food choice “disgusting” and inquire how the offending child could possibly eat such a nasty food. This would prompt a full-scale verbal battle, leading us…

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Time with Others

I was in a relationship awhile back where we got into the same argument every three to four months. The problem was how much time I spent with others outside the relationship and how well or how poorly I treated my partner once we saw each other again. I did not see a problem; she…

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All Hail The Underdog

I have always been a sports fan, thanks in large part to growing up under the influence of my mom. As an only child, she spent her childhood years in New Bedford, Massachusetts, learning to love the local teams under the influence of her fisherman father. One of her most beloved teams was the Boston…

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Sloppy Self-Care

As a counselor, I encourage self-care strategies on a routine basis, but how hypocritical am I each time I turn to a cupcake for comfort or vent vehemently? I’ve recently cut sugar out of my diet and this change has caused me to examine how I cope with stress. In fact, I actually have to…

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Accepting Yourself

So many people struggle with accepting themselves for who they are. It’s a real challenge for them to credit as valuable their personality, goals, preferences, etc. These struggles show up all the time, and I see clients of ours caught between a rock and a hard place, between living what they want and trying to…

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One Positive Change

The world we live in today can be overwhelming at times. We worry about everything from world peace to peace at our own dinner table. It can be extremely challenging to direct our energy into areas that we have more control over: we can find ourselves getting lost in the negatives that are beyond our…

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Getting Along

Sometimes I like to think, “Can’t we all just get along?” Other times, especially with everything in the news these days, I wonder at the naiveté of such thinking. We all have our personal interests, desires and goals – “what we want” out of the moment, the day, and our lives. How can we expect…