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You Can Afford to be Generous

We spend a lot of our lives interacting with other people. Sometimes, it seems as though hearing others’ viewpoints and opinions makes us even more confident in our own positions. Yet, when it comes to experiencing others’ gloomy moods or behaviors, we can quickly be influenced to turn negative ourselves. We cannot definitively understand what…

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The Chocolate Cake Diet

Next time you are waiting in a grocery store checkout line, pay attention to the magazines in the rack nearby. Particularly, notice the specialty magazines focused on health and weight loss, the ones with a seemingly endless supply of articles with titles like “The Guilt-Free Way to Shed Fifteen Pounds” or “Lose Inches in Just…

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Time to Adjust

My family recently returned from the first trip to visit relatives since my dad passed away. Before we left for the trip, I started thinking about how it would be different this time: not picking him up from his retirement apartment, not helping him shuffle along into the restaurant where he would proclaim his entree…

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Attribution

There is this problem: When I cut someone off on the road while driving, I see it as a mistake – something I would not normally do, something that happened due to the circumstances. Yet when someone else cuts me off in traffic, he is a jerk. I question his judgment, his moral character, and…

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The Importance of Having a Hobby

A hobby is typically defined as an activity or interest pursued outside one’s regular occupation and engaged in primarily for pleasure. For example, as a self-avowed entertainment enthusiast, I like to collect movie/TV/pop culture memorabilia; I also enjoy photography and reading. I especially love Star Wars, James Bond, and the Green Bay Packers, as evidenced…

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The Perfect Enemy

There is a phrase that I have thought about lately – the perfect is the enemy of the good! I heard this years ago, but it didn’t capture my imagination back then as it has more recently, when I’ve come to see how necessary it is for me to use this insight. How can perfection…

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Real Relaxation

“…Goldfinger could not have known that high tension was Bond’s natural way of life and that pressure and danger relaxed him.” – Ian Fleming, Goldfinger This is just one more way that I will never be like James Bond! Tension is not for me! I find high tension enervating if it goes on for too…

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Don’t Wait to Be Happy

The other morning, my middle school child told me he would “be so happy when it was summer vacation.” This seems like a pretty common sentiment for a young person starting to experience the early pangs of spring fever. While I could somewhat understand his feelings, I also thought about how many times in life…

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Chronic Pain and Me

Whether I like it or not, chronic pain is part of my normal, daily existence. When I was 25 years old, I started experiencing pain in my wrists, fingers, and arms. After two years of numerous doctor appointments, testing, and physical therapy, they finally performed a muscle biopsy and were able to diagnose me with…