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Sloppy Self-Care

As a counselor, I encourage self-care strategies on a routine basis, but how hypocritical am I each time I turn to a cupcake for comfort or vent vehemently? I’ve recently cut sugar out of my diet and this change has caused me to examine how I cope with stress. In fact, I actually have to…

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Accepting Yourself

So many people struggle with accepting themselves for who they are. It’s a real challenge for them to credit as valuable their personality, goals, preferences, etc. These struggles show up all the time, and I see clients of ours caught between a rock and a hard place, between living what they want and trying to…

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One Positive Change

The world we live in today can be overwhelming at times. We worry about everything from world peace to peace at our own dinner table. It can be extremely challenging to direct our energy into areas that we have more control over: we can find ourselves getting lost in the negatives that are beyond our…

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Getting Along

Sometimes I like to think, “Can’t we all just get along?” Other times, especially with everything in the news these days, I wonder at the naiveté of such thinking. We all have our personal interests, desires and goals – “what we want” out of the moment, the day, and our lives. How can we expect…

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You’re On Your Own

Remember the Marlboro Man? He was the iconic figure immortalized in TV and print ads for the cigarette brand. Always pictured out on a prairie or in some quintessentially western American landscape, wearing a cowboy hat and alone with his horse, he radiated a rugged, manly self-reliance. Like the cowboy, the Marlboro Man was an…

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100% Chance of Rain

A few years ago, our family discovered a dog-friendly beach in the Florida panhandle. We piled our belongings and our Labrador retriever and drove 18 hours to this relaxing, non-commercialized vacation spot. Available activities consist mainly of sitting by the ocean, walking along the water, kayaking, hiking in the state park, watching sunsets, and nighttime…

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#Adulting

#Adulting is trending all over social media. “Officially a home owner!!! #adulting,” “Didn’t think I’d spend my entire Saturday at a home improvement store. #adulting”, “Increased my 401k contribution. Only 40 more years until retirement. #adulting”. There are two components to adulting:  1) the action and 2) the humble brag. The action of adulting, as…

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From High Chair to High School

So, today is my oldest daughter’s first day of high school and I ask myself, how can this be? Rationally, I know that she has grown-up, gone to grade school, and is now at that magical age of 14 years old where kids typically transition to high school. However, the irrational side of me doesn’t…

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If I Had It To Do Over Again…

There is a movie that I enjoy called Peggy Sue Got Married. For me, it’s an unusual choice, given that I typical enjoy suspense movies and historical dramas, and Peggy Sue is a gentle, sentimental story about love and relationships. It stars Kathleen Turner as a woman in her early 40s, on the brink of…

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A Balancing Act

One summer, when one of my kids was a preschooler, I discovered she liked macaroni and cheese; in fact, she liked it so much, I started serving it almost every day for lunch. It was easy, she never complained, and things that reduce stress in everyday life tend to look amazingly appealing. Then one day,…