Going After Dreams

What are your dreams? How strongly do you go after them? How much do other things get in the way? I wanted to write the Great American Novel when I was younger. It is a dream many people have. I spent quite a bit of time on it. I went on writing vacations. I took…

Seeking Ways to De-Stress

How do you take care of yourself? What do you do to relax, de-stress, take the edge off? This is a question I ask most people when they call in for a counseling referral. One activity I recently rediscovered is reading the morning paper. It slows down my morning routine of rushing around getting ready…

When You’re Treated Poorly

What do you do when someone is not treating you very well? A friendship, a relationship. Walk away? Return to the abuse and don’t treat them well? Avoid the situations where the poor treatment is occurring? Typically, we respond in all of these ways at one time or another. Walking away from a situation is…

A Different View on Stressors

How we look at the stressors and the unknowns in our lives plays a big part in how we are able to deal with them – how much time and energy they take, how much aggravation they cause us. www.dhalia.co.uk “The lake with the squishy bottom” is a phrase I used recently to describe these…

Experiencing Grief and Loss

Grief and loss. Not fun things to talk about. Not nice things to live through. Many people I talk to about grief wonder if they should still be grieving so long after their loss. There is no time limit for how long we feel a loss. Some losses we feel for the rest of our…

Asking the “Why”

We often look at how to make our lives better. It may be in the area of weight loss, how to make more money, have better relationships or to believe in ourselves more. When our worldview is not serving us particularly well, we will have our moments of vulnerability. We want to believe in something…

More Thoughts Gleaned from Living

I have another godson graduating from high school this spring and going off to college in the fall. I am working on another (see April 2014 blog) day-by-day calendar with thoughts that I’ve jotted down over the years. I hope he finds them useful. Here is a sampling: Confidence is cool. Some fake it through…

Confidence vs. Competence

Getting a late start on this week’s blog, I was not very confident that I would be able to string 500 words together coherently by my deadline. So I picked up a book titled Confidence (I recently started researching this topic). I am a third of the way through the book and it gives some…

What Do You Expect?

We all have hopes and expectations in our lives – for ourselves and for others. Others have their expectations and dreams for us. It is worthwhile to pay attention to these expectations. Most of the time, what others expect of us will be innocuous, things we are already in agreement with, even if we are…