Giving Panic a “Time-Out”

I had a panic attack the other day. It was a small one. I don’t get them often, the last big one was over four years ago. Still, they are not fun to have. Body tenses up… assuming a self-protective, though not quite fetal position… breathing gets shallower… head feels ready to explode. It was…

When Our Parents Get Older

Aging parent. Family meeting. Scary stuff. I did not sleep the night before. Capabilities and independence were on the agenda; we were not at the point of caretaking or having to think about end of life issues. A big family offers a lot of assistance when needed and also comes with a variety of thoughts,…

Who is in Control?

It is nice to be in control of our lives. If others are too controlling for us, we tend to fight or back away in order to regain control in our lives (fight or flight response). There is also the freeze response – staying where we are, hoping the danger will go away on its…

How’s Your Support?

So, how is your support system? How are they treating you? How are you treating them? Our support systems can be wonderful and they can be aggravating. And they may say the same thing about us. A first consideration is how they are supportive. There are those we hang out with, chit-chat with and never…

Expressing Anger

There are two places/times where I allow myself to express my anger. One is in my car at long red lights on backed up roadways or at other drivers who upset me. I tend to use colorful language and hand gestures in quite inappropriate ways, although typically in a manner where others are not able…

Regaining Value

Past performance does not guarantee future results. This phrase is used in the investment world as a caution that simply because a stock doubled in price last year does not mean it will continue to double indefinitely or even keep going in a positive direction. As investors, we don’t have an impact on whether a…

Thoughts Gleaned from Living

Last fall my nephew/godson went off to college. As a going away gift, I gave him a day-by-day calendar with thoughts I gleaned from my journals. Outside of wondering why I did not put it in an electronic format (which I wouldn’t know how to do), he liked them. I thought I would share a…