Doing the Best You Can

The other day, I saw words of wisdom on the road sign outside of a building, “Do the best you can with what you have where you are.” We transmit many messages in the course of a day, and I could not help but marvel at the powerful simplicity of this particular thought. I find…

Taking a Look at Our Emotions

The term emotional intelligence has been around since 1990, although the concept has always been with us. In the Judeo/Christian/Muslim tradition of Adam and Eve biting the apple, taking a bite was an emotional decision, although it may not have been the most intelligent thing for them to do. Yet, the bites were taken and…

The Importance of Employee Recognition

Who doesn’t like having their work positively recognized by someone, especially if that person is their supervisor or a leader in their company? Taking the time to not only recognize employees, but also do it appropriately and correctly can be a difficult task for many managers. Sometimes, there are so many meetings and other projects…

The Frequently-Learned Lesson

Have you ever had an experience that taught you a good lesson, only to realize that you’ve learned that lesson before? Just recently, for example, I had a conversation with someone I have been close to for years, but someone with views very different from mine. I was often irritated by his past Facebook postings…

Good Grief

Throughout my professional life, I have noticed a duality in my own thinking. I make statements that reflect me, the counselor, and other statements that are just me, Kate. This duality has become more apparent in the last month as grief has been a constant topic for my family – we lost someone we loved…

Making Meetings Matter

Whether you like it or not, meetings are inevitable at every company, especially when you’re in a management position. According to one recent study, 11 million formal meetings occur in the U.S. alone every day! When run effectively, they can be a great benefit to those involved, but nothing can be more frustrating than meetings…

Me, Version 5.0

Kate, my colleague down the hall, got me thinking about age with her recent blog post, 30 is Not the New 20. Hitting 50 this year was not supposed to be a big deal. Birthdays have not been a big deal since my 29th, when I realized, oh boy, I am going to be 30…

Trouble is Meant to Be Shared

“Trouble is a part of your life – if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you chance to love you enough.” – Dinah Shore, entertainer It’s a shame that many clients who call LifeMatters® in times of crisis and difficulty are unable to consult with friends or family about their…

30 is Not the New 20

Thirty is not the new 20.” Crap! That would have been helpful to hear ten years ago. Those were my exact thoughts after viewing Dr. Meg Jay’s 2013 Ted Talk, “Why 30 is not the new 20.” “Don’t worry, you’re still young,” seems to be the most common advice I hear when I seek support…

Good Samaritans

I recently benefited from the acts of a Good Samaritan. On vacation in the UK, I was stranded with two flat tires, cell phone without a charge and not knowing where to turn or what to do. A stranger came out of the blue – or rather, out of the nearby apartment building – and…