Aligning Our Goals

Here are a few simple steps you can take to make your life more difficult! Think of a task or goal that you are having a problem completing. Ask yourself why you have not been able to complete it. Add a value judgment to your reason — I’m a procrastinator, I don’t have the skills to…

What Have We Learned?

Over the years of working in the helping professions, my views on how people cope with life and how they change have differed from what they were when my career began. I was as idealistic as anyone could be back then. I came charging out of graduate school on a white horse — ready, eager and determined…

Going After Dreams

What are your dreams? How strongly do you go after them? How much do other things get in the way? I wanted to write the Great American Novel when I was younger. It is a dream many people have. I spent quite a bit of time on it. I went on writing vacations. I took…

Lessons From My Dad

My family lost my dad at age 91 on October 7, 2015. After spending most of my life feeling distanced from him, in the past five years I opened my heart to a more meaningful relationship with him. Although knowing him better led to a much deeper sense of loss, I would not trade those…

Seeking Ways to De-Stress

How do you take care of yourself? What do you do to relax, de-stress, take the edge off? This is a question I ask most people when they call in for a counseling referral. One activity I recently rediscovered is reading the morning paper. It slows down my morning routine of rushing around getting ready…

Need to Know

It’s only natural that we share what we know about the people around us. Just as we talk about developments in our own lives – like a new job or new baby, how the kids are doing and things like that – we pass on updates about friends, family and co-workers. Keeping others posted this…

Zombie Preparedness

In the silly spirit of Halloween, I took a class on Zombie Preparedness. Along with recommendations on which machete might best protect my life, I walked away with real life preparedness tips. We were encouraged to consider the term “zombie” as a metaphorical zombie, a threat in the form of a natural disaster or pandemic,…

Facing the Loss of a Pet

I recently saw a t-shirt that read, “Yes, my dogs are my children” and thought, “That is totally me!” My four-legged child, Hamish, came into my life as a puppy 11 years ago. He weighed in at 2.6 lbs., and easily fit into my cupped hands. At 11, he is now 16.5 lbs. of personality,…

When You’re Treated Poorly

What do you do when someone is not treating you very well? A friendship, a relationship. Walk away? Return to the abuse and don’t treat them well? Avoid the situations where the poor treatment is occurring? Typically, we respond in all of these ways at one time or another. Walking away from a situation is…