Who Cares?

When I was in college, I knew a woman who would say, “I don’t care WHAT people think.” I didn’t believe her. There was something too self-conscious in her assertiveness. She seemed as determined to convince herself as she was to convince me. In all honesty, I often have that perception when people make this…

Time Spending

Time is the coin of life, so spend it wisely. I saw this astute little saying on a billboard by the road when I was heading home from work one day. A few local businesses use their billboard space for this type of uplifting observation, as do some churches, although they do it with a…

The Frequently-Learned Lesson

Have you ever had an experience that taught you a good lesson, only to realize that you’ve learned that lesson before? Just recently, for example, I had a conversation with someone I have been close to for years, but someone with views very different from mine. I was often irritated by his past Facebook postings…

Trouble is Meant to Be Shared

“Trouble is a part of your life – if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you chance to love you enough.” – Dinah Shore, entertainer It’s a shame that many clients who call LifeMatters® in times of crisis and difficulty are unable to consult with friends or family about their…

Should You Walk Away? – Part 2

Let’s start with a little review from Part 1. The sunk cost fallacy is the proverbial thing of throwing good money after bad. It’s when people push forward on a bad choice believing that investing more time, money, effort, and other resources will save a project or a relationship that appears to be failing. Anyone…

Should You Walk Away? – Part 1

My knowledge of economics is pretty sketchy, but sometimes it gives me good ideas that I can adapt for myself. For instance, I recently learned of an economic principle called the “sunk cost fallacy”. The sunk cost fallacy is the tendency to continue doing something for fear that by stopping, you’ll lose what you’ve already…

Do I Have to Be Realistic?

Realistic: Having or showing a sensible and practical idea of what can be achieved or expected. Few of us would willingly pursue a folly, some pie-in-the-sky fantasy that is completely disconnected from the realm of possibility, taking a lot of our time to chase after the truly unobtainable. There would, of course, be no point.…

Kind and Gentle?

“I want a kinder, gentler nation.” – President George H.W. Bush Despite their awesome power, presidents and candidates seldom make an impact with their words. Bush in particular was knocked for his lack of eloquence. Yet, he struck a chord with this simple wish. He seemed to articulate something that people yearned for, such that…