Why Wait? (Part Two)

There are two types of situations where I see people most likely to put their life on hold and wait for “the right thing” to come along and make them happy. One is in their job, and the other is in their relationships, most often romantic relationships. These are two of the most important parts…

Why Wait? (Part One)

There is a lot to be enjoyed in the world, enough to fill the entirety of life from the beginning to the end. In many ways, it’s right there in front of us, to be had at will. Yet some people hold off fulfillment until it arrives in the way that they want it to,…

Trust

Can you really have a meaningful relationship without trust? Without it, aren’t you always holding back, to some degree? I think so. The lack of trust always means the presence, to some degree, of uncertainty and doubt, and the need for protectiveness. After a breach in trust, this is even more true. A betrayal sensitizes…

Snakeskins and Pioneers

As a snake ages, it regularly sheds its skin for a new one. The new skin starts forming even before the former one has been shed, but it inevitably has to get rid of the old skin in favor of the new. Without this shedding, the snake cannot continue to grow. People can be the…

Road Blocks and Speed Bumps

A typical situation I regularly encounter in my work at LifeMatters is with people who want to change their lives, but can’t see the way to get it done. Sometimes, it’s because of not knowing which road to choose, but at other times, it’s because there doesn’t seem to be an available road. That’s when…

The Art of Paying Attention

Situational awareness has been a frequent topic of my conversations and presentations lately. Many executives I talk with claim they are believers in situational awareness and conduct annual employee training. But, what they don’t realize is that situational awareness is not a one-time event – it is an ongoing process that extends from the workplace…

Who Cares?

When I was in college, I knew a woman who would say, “I don’t care WHAT people think.” I didn’t believe her. There was something too self-conscious in her assertiveness. She seemed as determined to convince herself as she was to convince me. In all honesty, I often have that perception when people make this…